How to Take a Compliment

When I was 16, I read an article saying anyone could have a lot of friends by giving out compliments – like saying how much you like someone’s shirt or hairstyle. At the time, I wanted more friends, so I tried it. I can’t remember if it worked or not. Since I was really only doing it for selfish reasons, it felt fake and…

A Letter to My Lovers

In the beginning, we never imagine the end. . . Dear Mark You teased me relentlessly about being too young – that one year difference, between still in high school and post graduate freedom, seemed as big as an ocean at the time. But we hung in there for a while anyway, navigating the examined drama…

The End of a Kodak Era?

When I worked at the zoo in Indianapolis, in 1990, Kodak sponsored several “locations” within the zoo and posted signs indicating that particular spot was a Kodak “picture moment.” In front of the Kodiak Bears, along the walk to the Waters building, in front of a sculptural fountain, families posed for pictures. As an employee, I was…

The Old Man and the Sea

The warm saltwater swallowed my feet as I walked along the sand waiting for the sun to make its appearance. I hadn’t made it very far down the beach when I noticed an Old Man standing near the surf kicking a crumpled plastic water bottle out to sea. As I approached, he shuffled away, his back hunched…

Why You Should Stop Trying to Fix It!

I was very ready for a change! I spent weeks comparing paint chips taped to the wall like post it notes competing for my attention. I brought home plenty of samples from Lowes. I didn’t even bother to hide my patchwork colored walls over Thanksgiving. The whole startup was an experiment taking over my house.…