Back when I was twenty, the age of fifty seemed so very OLD.
But somewhere along the way, I began to realize that life at fifty could certainly hold more than sags and bags, graying locks and wrinkled skin. And interestingly enough, that awareness didn’t come from anyone I know (exactly). It came from a fictional character well known to many, Samantha Jones.
As the HBO series, “Sex and the City” grew in popularity, the characters on the show aged as well, and “well” is the appropriate word to describe the way Sam Jones portrayed a single woman in her prime.
This month, I turned the big 5-0, and over the years that I watched SATC, I learned a thing or two about (single) women growing older, wiser, more beautiful and strong. I’m not afraid anymore about the second half of life. In fact, I’m more excited than ever about what the future might hold – bring it on!
1. Aging well has more to do with attitude than the actual number of candles on your birthday cake. If you believe that you are still attractive and desirable at any age, then others will perceive you that way too. A positive attitude is the most attractive quality of anyone, at any age.
2. Looking good and staying healthy is directly relational to the effort you put into it. Even though there is no real “fountain of youth,” exercise and diet can have a restorative and youthful effect on one’s appearance. Self-care works on the physical level, as well as the psychological level. A sustained habit of exercise makes us feel stronger personally and eating well improves our self-esteem and the way we value our lives. When you care for anything, you become grateful for it.
3. Good relationships transcend age boundaries. We often think, when it comes to relationships, love and companionship are only for the young, but some of the best relationships happen later in life when we have a better sense of who we are and what we want/need out of our intimate and close relations. The older we become, the more we tend to understand, accept and appreciate others in our lives.
4. Take the time to love others intensely and with passion, but never love anyone more than you love yourself. Loving yourself, although it might seem selfish at first, is the key to success in relationships. Never lose your autonomy even when you are part of a couple.
5. Stay active and busy with the things you love. Even when you are single, intentionally create a life full of meaning. Don’t wait for someone else to make your life meaningful. Building meaningful relationships is important, but building a meaningful life will sustain you even in times when you find yourself alone.
Thanks Kim Cattrall for sharing the message that we can be strong, feminine, self-actualized women at any age!